Wisdom In Age: Learning From Those Who Have Gone Before Us | Darling Magazine

It’s no secret that we live in a culture that values youth above pretty much all else. There is a giant market for anti-aging products. We dye our grey hairs and fight our wrinkles. Some take more extreme measures than others, fighting signs of aging with Botox, face-lifts and other plastic surgeries. Our culture is always looking for the fountain of youth, and the obsession with youth goes beyond just skin deep. There are many of areas of society where the elderly are often overlooked in a sea of the young, shiny and ambitious.

In the face of our youth obsessed culture we often forget that there is a special kind of wisdom that can only come with aging; that the older generation can offer the younger something so invaluable.

The women of our grandmother’s generation, and even our mother’s generation, are in such a unique position to speak into our lives in ways that our peers simply cannot. This may seem obvious but we are quick to forget that they are wise; they’ve been there! They understand what it’s like being a teen, a twenty-something, a thirty-something, etc. Many older women were at one time young girlfriends, young wives, and young mothers. They’ve made and lost friendships. Many of them have had successful careers. They have experiences under their belt that we, the younger generation, only dream about right now. And as we all know, experience can be the best teacher.

The older generations of women amongst us know first hand what it is like to live through the hills and valleys of life. They have experienced triumph and tragedy, joy and pain. They are living examples of the hope that while a circumstance may be hard now, it can and does get better. They have overcome heartache and fears. They may even have regrets, yet they know better than anyone that life goes on. They have an amazing sense of what is truly important in life.

I want to encourage and challenge us as the younger generation to truly take advantage of the wisdom of those who have gone before us. Think about the women in your life who are twenty, thirty, forty or fifty years older. Think about the tremendous strength, grace and beauty that they posses. We have so much to learn! Lets make room for the voices of the elderly in our lives, for their stories and experiences and wisdom. Lets laugh and cry and do life together, understanding that getting older is not a negative thing. It’s a beautiful thing.

And if you are a darling reader who is a part of this older generation of women I want to thank you. Thank you for your grace, your strength and your dignity. Thank you for paving the way for us to follow our dreams and be whoever we want to be. We applaud and admire you!

Now lets go share a meal, or have a coffee, or take a walk with women of all generations. Lets soak up all the wisdom that comes from experience and age and then go forward dreaming about the future, together.

Image via Scott Schuman, thesartorialist.com



  1. If you’re in a situation where you don’t really know how to talk to an older and wiser women, what do you recommend starting with? Assuming that you know her, just not confident in yourself, wondering how to bring up this topic?

    Love your posts 🙂


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  3. This is such a wonderful post. It reminded me of what is said in the Bible in Titus 2, older women teaching younger women. I think wisdom is so powerful, and learning from your elders is so valuable in your growth as a woman of substance.

  4. Erin, you may be interested in As a Lily Among Thorns – A Story of King Solomon, the Queen of Sheba and the Goddess of Wisdom by Rudy U Martinka.

    Available as an eBook for $2.99.

    Wisdom and consul from elders is nothing new under the sun.

  5. This is such a beautiful post Erin, and it’s beauty in life I’d love to share and encourage my community of girlfriends to do!
    I have learnt so much from the older women in my life. Wisdom in ages, yes. But also wisdom in experience.

    Thank you for this post (you have written a few of my favourite posts on Darling Mag!) I love your writing style and heart.

    love & light,

    1. Thank you so much, Jane! What a sweet compliment… I really, really appreciate it! So encouraging, you made my night 🙂

  6. Thank you so much for this! It totally resonates and reminds me of the importance in developing relationships with the older generation. In my experience they really do have so much to offer, but we can be so quick to dismiss. Great article, Darling!

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