We’ve all heard it a million times: don’t compare yourself to others on the internet.
Yet, the reality is that it is much, much easier said than done. Thanks to a seemingly never-ending stream of social networks, we live in a world where we’re constantly bombarded with the lives of others. Comparisons are going to happen.
This is especially true once you immerse yourself in the blogging world. It can be easy to get sucked into what everyone else is doing, and it’s not at all uncommon to feel like other bloggers have it all: a perfectly decorated (and clean) house filled with stylish outfits, delicious meals, adorable children and non-shedding pets. Oh, and not to mention plenty of time for creative and satisfying work – and entertaining with friends (naturally).
In reality, that’s almost never the case. Blogs and social media accounts are mere snapshots of a life. They’re an Internet persona. They don’t tell the full story. While the practical side of us realizes this and knows that content is stylized and photoshopped (or filtered) to look just so, that doesn’t always stop the emotional side of us from wishing our blog, our social media, our life looked a little more, well, perfect.
So – maybe subconsciously at first – as new (and even seasoned) bloggers we start to try and emulate the “perfect” life on our blog. Can we get some pink peonies and pastel macaroons over here, please? Instead of being original, creative and simply ourselves, we strive for something unattainable. Not only is that exhausting and unrealistic for the long term, but it also doesn’t make for a very good blog. No one wants to see ten of the same posts on ten different blogs. If we’re all doing the same thing, what do we really have to offer each other?
We have good days.
And worse days.
So, as the final tip in this blogging series, we remind you: don’t forget to always be you. Rebel against the conventional blogger and Internet persona. Be real.
Yes, it can be terrifying and challenging to not only define who you are, but then also put it out in the world. It’s even something I’m struggling with at the moment as I embark on a new blogging/business venture with a friend. But it’s worth it in the end. It makes your blog, yours. You have something wonderful to offer the world, so don’t be afraid to share it authentically.
Peonies, or no peonies.
Are internet comparisons holding you back from putting yourself out there? How do you combat those tendencies?
Image via Michelle Roller