Earlier this year contributor Lauren Tien shared simple tips for long-distance friendships, but since you really can never have too many ideas for keeping in touch with loved ones, we asked Nicole to share a few more ideas for staying close with those old friendships we don’t want to let go of…
We have all heard the old adage, “Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other gold.” While this well-known phrase rolls off the tongue easily, following through on this principle may be easier said than done. All too often we find ourselves either living in the past and clinging to our old friends in a way that keeps us from investing in where we live right now or blazing forward, forgetting the friendships that we have held dear for a long time. So how do we invest in our current lives and continue to honor our close friendships from afar?
While it may not be the most cost effective option, there is no better way to celebrate your friendships than planning a special reunion trip to spend quality time together. Meeting in a relaxing spot for a girls’ weekend puts everyone in vacation mode and allows each individual to take a break from their routine, making enjoying the friendships the focus. Taking time away sets the stage for quality conversation and spontaneous memories that might not occur in the context of our daily life’s schedule.
Catch Up In the Car
Rather than spending time in the car trying to keep your frustration at bay, try catching up with friend instead! Keep a running list of people you would like to check in with and make it a point to call at least one person during your daily commute. Using the dead time that is already built into your schedule can help you to stay in touch without trying to squeeze too much into your daily routine.
Even though you may not be able to attend a birthday lunch or engagement party living long distances from your friends, an extra special gesture such as sending a gift or having flowers sent to the party can be an extra special way to communicate that you are there to celebrate in spirit. Those little gestures show your friends that you care and are thinking of them from afar.
The Quick Text
While it is not the ideal medium for ongoing communication, sometimes a quick text is enough to let a friend know you are thinking of them. Often we become overwhelmed by the idea of fitting in an hour-long phone call into our daily routines and fail to communicate at all. Rather than owning an “all or nothing” mentality, a quick text in between phone conversations can send the message that you care to touch base in the “in-between” of life.
As a recent East Coast Transplant, I can appreciate the difficulty of the task to put down roots where you are, while keeping in touch with loved ones who live far away. However, it is possible to love new friends and old friends well and employing these simple strategies will help. Keeping in touch with people from all walks of life helps us appreciate all of the people who have shaped who we are today.
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